Let’s start with a little honesty:
Most couples don’t argue about what they think they’re arguing about.

It’s not really the dishes.
It’s not really the text message that didn’t get answered.
And it’s definitely not just about who forgot to take the trash out (again).

Underneath all of that?
It’s usually something much more human:
“Do I matter to you?”
“Are you there for me?”

That’s exactly where Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) comes in.